Am I A Failure?
Am I a failure? This is a question we have all asked ourselves at some point in our lives. Some more than once. Though, define failure. The multi millionaire with their plush houses, flash cars and all the trimmings may have it all on paper, but if they are unhappy in their lives, is that classed as success or failure?
If you feel you are a failure, I can tell you now you’re not. Asking yourself, Am I failure? Is not a good thing, instead ask yourself how far you have got in reaching your goals instead. Changing feelings of failure can take some work and time. Changing your attitude and working hard at it can make all the difference. Turning negatives into positives and then maintaining a positive attitude is the best way that you can remain happy and keep your perception of failure from destroying your life.
Changing the Way You Think
Changing the way that you think is not always easy. You may have found this blog by Googling, Am I a Failure? Don’t let anyone judge you. So changing the way you think may mean that you have to change your entire outlook in life. There are some things that are not easy, but the right route is not always the easiest path. Don’t let peoples opinion of you drag you down, if you are in a toxic relationship, maybe it’s time to reconsider your options. Change the way you think. If you know you deserve more money at your job then ask for more. Or look elsewhere, you can change your circumstances by speaking up. So do it. What do you have to lose? Yes, there are going to be difficult decisions and hard times. You are going to hit the wall, but remember why you are doing it in the first place. Find your passion.
Have no fear.
Feelings Of Failure
Feelings of failure can be something that takes over our mind and body. It can ruin our lives and take away hopes and dreams. Accepting we are a failure can, quite simply destroy us. Do you want that to happen to you? Who are you? Are you a loser? Or a fighter? Do you want to lay on your death bed wishing you had done this and that or lay there thinking, wow, what a ride? Feelings of failure are depressing, sad and make you feel that you are not good enough. That you are not lovable. That you cannot ever achieve anything. Trust me, you are valuable. You are a wonderful person and you can achieve anything you want. Respect yourself and people will start to respect you.
Getting out and enjoying life can great therapy. Everyone needs to get out and enjoy things that make him or her happy. This can be anything from getting out and enjoying friends or taking in a movie. The way we overcome feelings of failure is to find success in something else. There are plenty of things we can do.
Talking about feelings is another good idea. Sitting down with someone and expressing the way you feel is one good way to deal with failure. There are so many different ways to use your feelings for the better and when you are looking to gain control over a situation you will want to find someone you can trust. You can talk to your friends that know you and understand what you are going through. This is just an idea and if you do not want to talk to friends you can use your family or counselor for help.
Keeping positive is one way to make sure that you are not letting failure take over your emotions. You need to be in control and realize that you are the only one that can make a difference in your own life. Giving positive feedback is something that you can feel good about and use in many types of situations that you are taking on. There are so many different ideas to getting through a difficult time. Using your best judgments and putting yourself first is the best thing you can do.
Put yourself out there and do not be afraid of challenges. If you are always hiding and avoiding certain situations you are only going to add to the problems of life. Using the rough times to make yourself stronger and to give yourself a better outlook on life is something that you can be proud of. This will help you feel good and find the success in life with all you do that you definitely deserve. You can use the method of talking anytime you are feeling bad about yourself. Remember doing something that makes you feel good about yourself can be the one thing that helps you forget about failure and move on to better things. Sheryl Sandberg said: Done is better than perfect and she was absolutely right. Keep trying, keep going.
The new year is now with us. So despite the pandemic and all the restrictions, sadness, unbelievable and unprecedented times this can still be your year for achieving your dreams. Set your goals, learn from your previous mistakes and move on. We have one life, so live it. Be the best you can. And then some. 😉